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sageta Newbie
Joined: 18 February 2009
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Hmm...
I respect u for your big heart but you have your kids.
I'm a kid in a broken family and i lived well with only my parent.
Its not easy to bring them up but clearly your wife has forsaken the family.
Maybe and only maybe she does love her kids but so?
Shes gone for good mike, shes carrying another person's child.
Forget her.
Pull yourself together. Mentally torturing urself is as bad as torturing ur kids.
They need you.
Just think about your kids.
=)
Edited by sageta on 24 February 2009 at 2:25pm
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patogonia Newbie
Joined: 06 May 2009
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Mike,
I know how u feel and what u r going thru'. I had a very similar experience several years back. She started to have affairs just months after we got married.
Her affairs with several men lasted 5 years. She also moved out to stay with her bfs.She also had a child with one of the bfs while still married to me. She has another child with her ex-bf before i married her.
I was very miserable and heart broken for several years. But i never stopped loving her and never gave up on her even though the thoughts of divorce did came to mind many times. I continued to woo her and try all ways to win her back. She finally came back to me 2 years ago and we are now still happily married. She gave birth to my son last year, and together with the 2 girls (8 yo & 4 yo now) that she had with her bfs, we are a big happy family now.
So Mike, love, determination and persistant can move a woman and win her over. Don't give up.
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Posted: 06 May 2009 at 3:14am · IP Logged |
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pritzzi Newbie
Joined: 13 May 2009
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Mike,
Sorry to be mean, but she's gone with another man and i don't think she loves you anymore. Moreover, she's having another man's child....you still want her? You still want a wife who has been cheating on you openly like that? and from what i read, it seems that this guy is not the first guy she's had sex with outside marriage. She used to have other men too right? You still want a woman who has slept with so many other men? Common man...be a man...Where is your self respect? Your colleagues are laughing at you..
Patogonia,
It's an encouraging story you got there. But aren't you giving Mike too much false hope. Yours maybe an exceptional case..and are you very sure deep down inside you don't mind about your wife's past? You sure she won't cheat again? I don't mean to be mean or cruel, but have you taken any DNA test to confirm the son is yours?
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Posted: 13 May 2009 at 8:21am · IP Logged |
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Jasm Newbie
 Joined: 06 May 2008
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Pritzzi,
i think you are beoing too mean. Give Mike and Patogonia and break. Give them some encouragement.
Mike
Don't give up....Patogonia prooved to you that it's possible to win her back.
Patogonia,
Congrats and best wishes...
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Posted: 20 May 2009 at 7:38am · IP Logged |
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sOmuChiNLOvE Newbie
 Joined: 17 June 2008
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There might still be hope but the more you wish for and if it never comes true you will fall deeper as well....
you have to make your own decision since this is ur life... dun let the people here affect your decision... what we can do is only giving you advise or sharing our stories.
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reddevil1966 Newbie
 Joined: 03 June 2009
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Hi Mike,
i am new in this forum, just to share my pass experience of my married...we have been married for 10 yrs & been together for almost 20 yrs since we are very young.
I love my wife so much although she is not my first girl, things change after the 10 yrs of married where she started to return home late, telling lies and best of all starting to dress up & going out early during weekend.
i got to know she have an affair with another married man, my heart break. Well, we sat & talk but things doesn't change...we divorce...
well, my advice is face it, accept it, solve it & let it go......to love someone is to let go n not holding on where both party will suffer...
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Kai31410 Newbie
Joined: 08 June 2009
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I am kaithri from malaysia..
If you realy love your wife takecare and understand her attituid.can fence your wife and show your love and care to her very deep..In free time take her to romantic place and it can impress her...takecare your children and spend time wit your family...if can console councilling to get advise..
edited : urls removed (sk, lbt)
Edited by olaf on 08 June 2009 at 7:16pm
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MikeKTH Newbie
 Joined: 31 July 2008
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Thanks for all your advice and giving me your point of views. I know the final decision still lies on me.
Things have improved a bit lately with my wife. She has spend more time with me and the kids. She has come home very often nowadays even though she hasn't move back.
Me and her and the kids have been going for several family outing together lately. I can see that she is trying to put in some effort too.
Last night, we left the kids at my parents house and went out for a romantic dinner together.Had an enjoyable time.
I don't mind abt her past and present. As long as she comes back to me, it doesn't matter to me that she has had affairs with many other men. In fact she told me that she has had sex with more than 10 other men since she married me. I can accept that. Guess i love her too much.
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the_fallen Moderator
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Although you can accept the fact of her being sexually active after marriage..
Just beware of STDs..
Keep yourself safe.
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爱心是我的五颗心。
Posted: 12 July 2009 at 1:56am · IP Logged |
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patogonia Newbie
Joined: 06 May 2009
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"It's an encouraging story you got there. But aren't you giving Mike too much false hope. Yours maybe an exceptional case..and are you very sure deep down inside you don't mind about your wife's past? You sure she won't cheat again? I don't mean to be mean or cruel, but have you taken any DNA test to confirm the son is yours? "
Pritzzi,
yes, i don't mind abt my wife's past. I wouldn;t know whether she'll cheat again in the future, i don't think so much. The imporatnt thing is we are happy togther now. I'm very happy and contented.
DNA test? not necessary. I love my son very much, it doesn't matter whether he is or not my biological son.
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