| User |
Message |
|
the_fallen Moderator
 Joined: 01 April 2007
Posts: 985
|
TS: Maybe now that their kids not fathered by you may be happy..
But when you see them grow up, learn the facts, the happiness you seek despite all these humiliation from your friends will only go down the drain.
Imagine what would the kids think of you when they know you're not their real dad, plus how do you expect them to respect you?
A guy with no ego, pride which a male should have..
instead of protecting a home idea of kids to grow up, you are only helping your unfaithful wife and your ex-boss to cover up the truth.
The day your children grow up and learn the truth/facts will be the day your "ideal/fake" happy family fall apart.
Why not divorce and demand go to court..since your wife taking advantage of you, back it up with DNA of kid not your biological kid, you can claim not to pay maintenance to your wife.
No children will want to grow up in a family like that..as they will be laughed even by their friends, colleagues when they grow up..when their frens know of it..
Spare yourself, their kids the problem which you will face many years down the road especially during gatherings, festive season greetings with elders etc.. It will only make their life more miserable than what it already is..
Believe me, as I'm also a kid grown up in a family with elder relatives talking, gossiping behind our (my family) backs..and I seriously hate it..making it harder (by two/three times) for 2nd generation to stand up heads high in front of family and relatives
If you want the kids to hate/lose their respect for you all their life..go ahead and carry on doing what you're doing right now..
In a nut-shell: Learn from the fireworks. While it may be beautiful it only last for a short moment, with so many months of preparation for a few short minutes..
You don't need to try so hard, taking responsibility for things which isn't yours in the first place..
WAKE UP Man..Stop shouldering all the blame, criminal actions which your wife and your ex-boss did passing the blame to you, and there they are in front of you laughing at you for being foolish..
|
| 细心，耐心，关心，真心和
爱心是我的五颗心。
Posted: 25 January 2011 at 12:49pm · IP Logged |
| |
|
|
|
|
blurry101 Senior Member
 Joined: 28 May 2010
Posts: 776
|
Yup must think long term!! Life may seem fine now (for u) yet there are so many consequences.. Take action man...
|
|
Posted: 25 January 2011 at 3:45pm · IP Logged |
|
|
pritzzi Newbie
Joined: 13 May 2009
Posts: 6
|
Hey Mike, where's your self respect and ego? You are a man. How can you let a woman and his lover humiliate you and manipilate you like that? How can you let another man have sex with your wife and yet forgiving her again and again and worst still take care of their love child?
You let that man come to your house regularly? Aren't you confusing the kids? Won't they wonder who is this man who is always with their mum? Don't tell me he even sleeps with your wife in your own house?
And Mike, may i ask whether your wife still makes love with you? Or she only has sex with that guy? 
|
|
Posted: 25 January 2011 at 6:56pm · IP Logged |
|
|
the_fallen Moderator
Joined: 01 April 2007
Posts: 985
|
pritzzi wrote:
Hey Mike, where's your self respect and ego? You are a man. How can you let a woman and his lover humiliate you and manipilate you like that? How can you let another man have sex with your wife and yet forgiving her again and again and worst still take care of their love child?
You let that man come to your house regularly? Aren't you confusing the kids? Won't they wonder who is this man who is always with their mum? Don't tell me he even sleeps with your wife in your own house?
And Mike, may i ask whether your wife still makes love with you? Or she only has sex with that guy? |
|
|
The answer is obvious..it's a no..
He said his wife is still seeing him, plus he is trying to keep the family image from cracking solely only for the kids dis-illustration 'benefits' and nothing more than that.
Leave some place for him to keep his pride la. Respect one another and give see space for people to breath and pour their hearts out..
Don't rub salt into the wounds la.
|
| 细心，耐心，关心，真心和
爱心是我的五颗心。
Posted: 25 January 2011 at 8:02pm · IP Logged |
|
|
StyleUp Groupie
 Joined: 19 December 2010
Posts: 445
|
Oh my god i didn't know forums can be so sensitive...i feel so bad if i say anything wrong:((
|
|
Posted: 26 January 2011 at 10:09pm · IP Logged |
|
|
kaycee26 Newbie
 Joined: 13 January 2011
Posts: 87
|
That's wont be worth my dear friend, do you know why. If she comes back in your life what will you prove and to whom. Was your life only for this purpose? Now I am feeling you are not a tuff person you are behaving like a looser. I am very sorry to say this because as I am seeing this thread since I am join this forum. And you are the person who doesn’t care for the advice of the members. YOU DONT HAVE GUTS TO ACCEPT THE THRUTH. You are not only the person in this world who is suffering from this type of conman problem. What will you answer to your children and to others that you have expended your valuable time in achieving your wife. What a bull shit message is coming from your life man.
Sorry I if said any thing wrong may hurt to you, but my dear friend accept the truth.
|
| tribal jewelry
Posted: 28 January 2011 at 2:39pm · IP Logged |
|
|
kaycee26 Newbie
Joined: 13 January 2011
Posts: 87
|
Oh!
He's not replying. 
|
| tribal jewelry
Posted: 04 February 2011 at 2:54pm · IP Logged |
|
|
MikeKTH Newbie
 Joined: 31 July 2008
Posts: 20
|
i have DNA test results of all my kids. I believe that if i really file for divorce, i can avoid paying maintenance due to her infidelity. All the 3 kids are not mine.
|
|
Posted: 19 February 2011 at 9:33am · IP Logged |
|
|
the_fallen Moderator
Joined: 01 April 2007
Posts: 985
|
Congrats, finally brother, you have wake up from your dream and is ready to face reality.
Before you go ahead with the divorce request, get a PI Detective, and check for their infidelity record from the start to the end.
Use all these as proof against your wife and ex-boss.
So they have no way of counter sue you because you legally accepted to be the father in the birth cert, and no body forced you. Thus therefore you need more evidence, plus perhaps a doctor to determine your mental stress you suffered all these years ba, so you can claim some money from them too to compensate your investment in the kids.
At least you can claim back some losses you previously invested in the kids and your wife.
Good luck.
|
| 细心，耐心，关心，真心和
爱心是我的五颗心。
Posted: 19 February 2011 at 6:02pm · IP Logged |
|
|
blurry101 Senior Member
Joined: 28 May 2010
Posts: 776
|
Mike, u're going to be free finally!
|
| *~*~*~* Purple Fanatic! *~*~*~*
Posted: 22 February 2011 at 1:41pm · IP Logged |
|
Follow us: 
