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BeBeCo Newbie
Joined: 22 June 2010
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I have known this guy ‘K’ since secondary school days. We are very close friends like brothers.
As usual, we have big gathering with our secondary school’s classmates, once or twice a month. I have even one to one casual dinner with him every one to two months.
Until one day that he confessed to me that he likes me. I was startled and there we stopped our meet ups.
I feel very sad as I don’t wish to lose my close friend like that. Months later, he sms me to ask how’s my life? And we met up again, he told me that he respect my decision and wait for me.
However, I have not committed to him anything until now.
Recently, I have booked a house with another guy ‘M’, which we were known since I started working about 7 years ago.
We intend to get married before we move in, in 2014.
This Friday, I will have a meet up dinner with ‘K’. I think I should let him know that I am getting married, on the other hand, I don’t wish to lose this friend after I tell him. As I am not too sure of what’s reaction after telling him.
I am so worry to lose this friend immediately. 
Is there a good way to tell him and not hurting him and we can continue to be friends?
Can anyone please share our views and advice?
=edited to break into shorter paragraphs=
Edited by the_fallen on 31 January 2012 at 11:15pm
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Posted: 30 January 2012 at 4:13pm · IP Logged |
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the_fallen Moderator
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If you treat him like Brother..
Just make it clear and politely say you will still treat him as your brother lor..got things can still approach you..
but you need to introduce your soon-to-be husband to your friend..else your partner might mind if he finds out..
it's better to play safe by declaring..
just invite him to your wedding and ask for his blessings..
that's the least he as a brother can do..
to celebrate and give you his blessings.
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Posted: 31 January 2012 at 11:20pm · IP Logged |
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Emotika Groupie
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Does he even know you are attached? If he does, well, just tell him and keep it casual. If he is a true friend, he will be happy for you.
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Posted: 20 February 2013 at 5:04pm · IP Logged |
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sherryx Newbie
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you should make it clear of him. let him decide if he still wants to be friends.
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Posted: 23 February 2013 at 5:36pm · IP Logged |
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sybilwu Newbie
Joined: 26 February 2013
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I think the best is to just be honest with him, draggin it out will hurt him more and maybe cause him to fall deeper. Just have a <3 - <3 talk with him. If you cant be lovers at least you can be friends. Its better than dragging it out and in the end he'll be devastated when he invested so much and you just give him a slap in his face
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Posted: 26 February 2013 at 5:28pm · IP Logged |
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