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juz_A_gal Senior Member
 Joined: 17 December 2003
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dollfin.. u juz haven't found ur area of expertise over his. that's all. it's there in u. show him!
but sad to say, i'm guilty of this sometimes. Sometimes my bf tell me something, which i already noe and really is all over the place. but he's gotten better. last time cos he was literally a bum. did nothing but play compy.
now at least he does tune in to the news and he's getting smarter than i am! got competition with him liaoz! healthy one though!
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Posted: 30 April 2004 at 10:33am · IP Logged |
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tiffany Senior Member
 Joined: 06 November 2003
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I will find other areas which I know more about and belittle him. Tit for tat.
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Posted: 30 April 2004 at 10:42am · IP Logged |
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Fluffy Senior Member
 Joined: 18 February 2004
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Y must we feel inferior, everybody have their strengths n weakness, no one is PERFECT in this world, ppl have the inferior complexity bcos they are not confident of themselves, come on, we cant possibly know everything out there, the next time he tell u this crap again, tell him, if im tat smart, u won be HERE  id would have gone for someone much btr
Sorry but i stand up for woman rights, cant stand MCP
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Posted: 30 April 2004 at 10:42am · IP Logged |
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Eriko Senior Member
 Joined: 15 April 2004
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yup, there is no such thing as whether he is too good for u or vice versa... itz all abt compromising and complementing each other.. dun be upset/inferior.. 
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Posted: 30 April 2004 at 10:43am · IP Logged |
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Andie VIP Member
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dollfin,
come on, it's time to let him know tat u can do without him... i do tat to mine too... wheneva, he started on some silly issues, i'll remind him tat i wun hestitate to walk out of the relationships as i know tat i can do better..
tell him tat u can also do tat, and he will be the helpless. If a man dun knoe how to treat u rite, den let him know tat his shelf life is well OVER....
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Posted: 30 April 2004 at 10:54am · IP Logged |
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Fluffy Senior Member
Joined: 18 February 2004
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yeah, man are one kind, u let him step on your all the time, he'll take u for granted
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Posted: 30 April 2004 at 11:31am · IP Logged |
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Andie VIP Member
Joined: 29 July 2003
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yup, show him tat u r worth more den he thinks... start by doing stuffs tat u dun normally do.. such as join some dancing classes or hang out with ur friends more and turn him down when he wanna go out with u ...
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EverQuest II rocks!
Posted: 30 April 2004 at 11:33am · IP Logged |
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ice_miracle Senior Member
 Joined: 19 November 2003
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dollfin wrote:
| did that several times alrdy....then when he will keep calling back, when i finally ans his call, he will scold mi. he mentioned b4 that he cannot break up with mi cos without him, i will be very helpless....that was months ago when we had a quarrel and he typed this email to this female frd....but he din sent. i accidentally saw it when im using his comp the next day. i confronted him and he said he wrote all that cos he was angry n doesnt mean anything. but lately he mentioned it accidentally again...i din say anything more... |
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what sort of guy is he .. MCP .. !!  don't let him step u down .. i detest guys like this
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Posted: 30 April 2004 at 2:24pm · IP Logged |
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lufie Senior Member
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Hi dollfin
I guess your bf is a rather egoistic guy who seemed to enjoy belittling you and boast abt himself which make u feel that he's smarter than u. i dont think he's any smarter i think he's just INSECURE and dying to show u that he's the smarter one. however maybe there's another possibility is that he has good intention for u to improve yourself but he expressed it in a wrong way. im just an outsider so u'll know ur bf better. if he's just teasing with u, it's pretty okay. does he know how u felt when he belittle you? he has his own blind spots. why dont u have a good calm talk with him to let him know how u felt. ignoring is not that a good idea if u're serious with ur relationship with him and if u treasure him. if you're not serious with him, u can jolly well ignore him cus there are still many guys around for u to pick.
however every quarrels, unhappiness betw a couple may allow them to know better abt the other partner... like a stronger bond if both of you are committed and give effort to handle the problems. im not sure what's going on betw u and ur bf but the best way is always talk it out calmly. the path ahead is a long walk for u and ur bf. and you're still young.
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olaf Moderator
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dollfin dear, ur bf is an emotional abuser! he is "useless" n i firmly believe we collect partners(bf/gf alike) so can "use" them! if no "use", dump! i mean one basic "use" of having say bf is so you will feel good about urself, u know boost ur esteem. ur bf like doing opposite leh. ask urself honestly whether e "good" he provides is worth it for e "bad" u seem to b receiving. dont get into e "but i love him" death trap.
n regarding e "breakup threat" tatic, employ it only if u really mean to deliver it. had a few gfs who initiate breakups to teach their bfs a lesson, less than a month later (sometimes even days!) patch back, things cosy n rosy, soon bfs back to old tricks, gfs initiate break again, patch up again...in e end, bfs start to think "haha, no sweat! she wont really leave one, always coming back.". dat said, some of them actually pretty satisfied w tis arrangement. u see my gfs in their hearts were not ready to dump their bfs (either cos of e "love trap" or jus cos they dont wanna b single) so to them, temporary relief is better than nothing.
andie is rite. go out, paint e town red without him, meet more people. perhaps then, your turn to find him "small". u still so young, very likely dat he wont b your last bf so heads up!
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