We love our busy lives, but let's face it -- between juggling career, kids and house, sometimes it can be hard to get in the mood for sex. If your sex life has been on the back burner lately, it's time to turn up the heat. Check out these sizzling strategies that'll get you and your guy back into a steamy groove.
1. Arouse your brain
The brain is the biggest sex organ. It may sound cliché, but it's a biological fact. The more you think about sex, the more likely you are to want it and to make it happen. Think about what turns you on. Or better yet, share those fantasies with your partner, urges sex counselor Ian Kerner, Ph.D., who has observed that couples with the most satisfying sex lives are the ones who are willing to share fantasies without judgement -- even if it's just talking about it.
2. Make sex a priority
As you take on more responsbilities -- house, baby, career -- sex gradually ends up at the bottom of your list of to-dos. Then all of a sudden, you realize you haven't had sex in weeks! The solution: "Make sure your intimate time, for just the two of you alone, is a priority," says Gabrielle Morrissey, author of A Year Of Spicy Sex.
Schedule sex into your calendar if you have to. Granted, booking a Saturday-night romp isn't the most romantic thing to do, but the upside is you can make special plans in advance, like a candlelit dinner. Of course, in between your nooky dates, you can always look forward to plenty of hot, spontaneous sex by making this seductive move...
3. Do some flirting
When was the last time you flirted with your guy? If your convos only revolve around the mundane stuff, like when he's going to be home, what groceries to pick up, and where to go for dinner, they're not exactly things that will put you in a sexy mood. Letting him know that you still have the hots for him after all these years is an instant way to bring the zing back to your love life. Flirting with your guy can be as simple as sending a suggestive text or email to him during the day. Tell him you're thinking about him, how hot he looks, what you're going to do to him when he gets home. It doesn't have to be X-rated, just enough to make him anticipate the fun evening in store for both of you.
4. Change up your bedroom repertoire
Sex is like food, says Kerner, if you eat the same thing over and over, you'll just get bored. Most couples are guilty of routine sex, and it's what makes sex go from fun to functional. So spice things up in the bedroom
-- introduce a piece of sexy lingerie, explore new nooky locations within the house
, or simply roll on top of your guy and take control.