Sex researchers estimate that around 80 percent of women of all ages masturbate, and that means most of us are doing it.
Unless your religion is against it, masturbation is a healthy way to consciously learn more about your body and what turns you on. If you'd like to give masturbation a go but haven't done it in a while (or at all), here are some simple steps to get you started.
What solo sex does for you
Masturbation is a perfectly natural outlet for satisfying ourselves sexually. It doesn't sap your sexual energy for sex with your partner, as is commonly believed. Quite the opposite: Self-pleasure actually makes for better sex with your partner. How? When you know how to turn yourself on, you can point your partner in the right direction. Most women learn how to orgasm through masturbation, and it's also the primary means of learning other ways to get off. You can teach yourself to come with penetration and with a partner.
1. Arrange a private time to get in the mood
Set aside some uninterrupted time in a private space and treat yourself to something sensual to help you get into the sexy mood for self-touch. Enjoy a relaxing soak in the bathtub, light some aromatic candles, turn on some soft music. "Take time to indulge all your senses," says Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, sex expert and author of Pleasure: A Woman’s Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need and Deserve.
"The goal is to make you feel pampered, sexy, and sensual."