Want to have a hotter, better sex life? The secret to really good sex, say sex experts, isn't just about techniques, but also has every bit to do with stimulating our largest erogenous zone -- the mind. Check out these spicy suggestions and tips to unleashing your inner sources of sexual passion.

1. Change your attitude about sex

Many of us resist pleasure because we're plagued by a deep-rooted fear of sex -- the result of a religious upbringing or over-strict parents, or even worrying whether we look fat naked, according to Alan Brauer, sexologist and co-author of The ESO Ecstasy Program. Such intrusive thoughts during sex can distract your mind from the pleasure of the moment, so you need to do some 'cognitive restructuring': Every time you think a negative thought, Brauer suggests, replace it with "This feels great" or "I'm enjoying this."

2. Masturbate more

The reason? "Researchers claim it increases your sexual appetite because the more sex we have, the more our bodies expect," says Tracey Cox, author of Hot Sex: How to Do It. An added bonus: You'll learn what strokes suit you, the speed, pressure and rhythm, so you can then tell or show your partner what you like best.

3. Prime yourself for sex beforehand

Turn yourself on by checking your guy out -- whatever he's doing right now. "When he's talking to friends, think about what that tongue will do to you later, how much better his fingers would feel inside you rather than wrapped around a beer glass," suggests Cox.