Sex needs a little novelty every now and then. Otherwise, it'll just become a tad too... predictable. And predictability is a notorious passion-killer.
"If you always make love exactly the same way, at the same time, and in the same place, the routine can become boring," explains Dr. Ruth Westheimer, sex therapist and author of
Sex For Dummies. The good news is, it's never too late to spice up your bedroom repertoire and let the thrill of sex soar to new heights. Here are some simple, sexy ideas to add to your to-do list:
1. Try a different sexual position
You don't need to have the flexibility of a Yoga pro to get experimental with different sex positions. Try doggy position, woman-on-top or reverse cowgirl (that's you on top, facing his feet), or do it standing up against a door. Even if you're a fan of the classic missionary, you can give it a whole new twist with some minor adjustments -- try placing a pillow under your rear to increase clitoral stimulation, or lift and prop your legs on his shoulders for a deeper penetration.
2. Make love at a different time
Do you always schedule sex in the evening? Try getting it on at a different time of the day, such as early in the morning or in the middle of the afternoon.
3. Have sex somewhere different
Take it outside the bedroom by exploring
new nooky locations within the house. Try initiating sexual encounters in the kitchen, in the shower, or on the dining room table.
4. Tease each other
Engage in frisky foreplay before you leave for work. But stop just short of sex. It takes a lot of control, but you'd be thinking about each other non-stop all day. And it makes sex hotter when you finally get down to it in the evening.
5. Change the pace
Try
quickie sex when you usually take your time with lots of foreplay. It might be over in the blink of an eye, but the rush of pleasure can keep you glowing all day long.
6. Recruit sex accessories
Introducing a new sex accessory is an instant way to spice things up. Try lubes (silicone ones are good because they don't destroy latex condoms), vibrators and penis rings with attached vibrator. Go shopping together -- the experience itself can feel so naughty. If you feel uncomfortable in a sex shop, you can always search the Internet for any number of sex boutiques.
7. Take turns taking charge
Is he usually the one who takes the lead in bed? Guys love it when you get take charge once in a while -- so get aggressive, grab his butt and pull him deep inside you, or firmly push his head down into your lap.